What we are looking for is a new way of being seen. The desired effect is a narcissistic gain, a boost to stimulate our self-image. This exterior vision of ourselves is reminiscent of the way we were first looked at by our parents. This is the base on which our personality is constructed.

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If we say to them, because you tell us what you wear has no importance, tomorrow you will wear bright green trousers and a yellow jacket, they are usually horrified and reply that it's out of the question.

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