We feel it's net. It's what you're bringing home that you can afford.

Money is the biggest issue on The Knot. With the average wedding costing $19,000, people are asking how they can do it for $3,000.

That can be mortifying for some women.

You would be surprised how many people just have a phone conversation. Get everything in writing.

I can't say I'm a big fan. I understand where the pressure is to do this because so many couples pay for their weddings themselves these days and they don't want to give up that dream of having a big wedding. But it seems like kind of a sell-out. This is a major life moment and I think you should do it within your means rather than trying to turn it into a marketing event.

Dresses can cost anywhere from $500 to $5,000 so it is not a time to do it blindly with someone that you've never met over the Internet. You need to put in the time and money to make sure you get the service you need.

You can't just bring the ring home anymore. There's an expectation that plans were made.

Don't pay any services in full until you receive them.