You can't blame people for being inconsistent parents if they're receiving inconsistent advice.
"Rosalind Wiseman" is an United States/American parenting educator and author of several publications. Her New York Times best-selling book Queen Bees and Wannabes: Helping Your Daughter Survive Cliques, Gossip, Boyfriends, and Other Realities of Adolescence, released in 2002, was the basis of the hit comedy film Mean Girls (2004). A revised version of Queen Bees and Wannabees was released on October 13, 2009. Wiseman is also the creator of the Owning Up Curriculum, a program that teaches students and educators to take responsibility as bystanders, perpetrators, and victims of unethical behavior.More Rosalind Wiseman on Wikipedia.
Kids for the most part talk to me about parents gossiping about each other and the other kids. I can't think of one kid who didn't know where her parents fit in the parents' social hierarchy.
How are you supposed to concentrate on your schoolwork when all you can think about is 'Everybody hates me'?
American kids are more cynical than any other groups of kids I've worked with.
You judge yourself and other parents according to perfect-parent myths.